I recently read a study based on interviews with parents, that concluded that having one or two children is more stressful than having
four. Not because there’s less work, but because the parents of more than three
children who participated in the study were more relaxed about their current
situation. It turns out, that when you only have two children, you try to do *it
all*, however once you are outnumbered as parents, you basically throw in the
towel. You decide that you just can’t do it all – you admit that you can’t
control everything; family, home, work, social life – and when you stop trying
to do and be *everything*, you relax. Your life becomes less stressful.
[Or maybe these people are so exhausted, they don’t even have
the energy to stress anymore.]
Let us note for the record here that less stressful and
more relaxed doesn't mean quitting your job, pouring yourself a cosmopolitan
and watching your kids tear down the house. It just means that you learn to
prioritize (occasionally, a cosmopolitan will be a top priority though) and
stop worrying so much. You still try and work hard, but your efforts become more…
focused.
This is me. A little more relaxed, hard-working and
confident. I do a lot of things, but I've become better over these past years
at doing what I think is important, and what matters to me and my family. I'm more effective and focused.
Most of the time, anyways. Today I think we as a family managed both to be productive AND tear down the house.
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